Fuschia Shades + Exchanging Energies

My daughter says to me, "Mommy how do you get your clothes to match?
My response, " I didn't intend these to match, I guess I just got lucky."
I did not buy any of these items at the same time or together.  I've had this top for years, the shoes are Aldo, and the bag is from Sam Moon.  They just happened to be close in shade and made my look work out perfectly.  How awesome is that?!


Exchanging Energies

"Pay attention to whom you share your intimate energy with. Intimacy at this level intertwines your aural energy with the aural energy of the other person. These powerful connections, regardless of how insignificant you think they are, leave spiritual debris, particularly within people who do not practice any type of cleansing, physical, emotional or otherwise. The more you interact intimately with someone, the deeper the connection and the more of their aura is intertwined with yours. Imagine the confused aura of someone who sleeps with multiple people and carries around these multiple energies? What they may not realize is that others can feel that energy which can repel positive energy and attract negative energy into your life."

 I am not sure if I truly believe this whole concept but, it is interesting.  I do agree that one should surround his/herself with good people.  I also believe that a man's energy can "transfer" into the woman much easier than a woman's energy into a man. (I'm trying to use non-sexual verbiage, bare with me.)  Even if a woman is controlling the encounter, she feeds off his aura more that he feeds off her (this is not a fact, it's just my opinion.)  And let's be realistic, as far a biology is concerned, men and women are NOT equal.  With the right functions and foundations, we may balance each other but, we are chemically different.  So we seep and exude differently.

Ideally women are the nurturers so our chemical compounds are infused with raw emotions; some of us are better at managing our feelings than others.  We engage energy from those around us but, more so from those we become intimate with.  I've been able to understand this theory more and more through my growth and observing in understanding romantic relationships, which leads me to be more convinced that women should not have more than one intimate partner at a time.  It does not matter if it is a casual partner, it is still intimacy and intimacy is defined as: a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person.  So if we factor in sex and break down the definition.....ummmm, yeah, I do not want to have that with more than one man and not every man is privileged to have me like that.

Here are my thoughts on sex:
  1. I do not believe a woman should share her "cookies' with more than one partner.
  2. There should be a good 3-6 month break in between partners.
  3. Casual or not, sex can make anything messy and it can get awkward quickly.
  4. Do not agree on casual sex if you know you cannot handle your emotions.
  5. Last I checked, the only ones who can get pregnant are women. (This right here should be your fear factor.)
I also believe that each man a women decides to share herself with sexually, should not know all her levels of intimacy or excitement.  You can argue, "but Raya, being spontaneous is part of the excitement in sex."  This is true but, not everyone is worth being spontaneous with.  I do not want for someone who I have had casual experiences with to know or have experienced the level of intimacy that my husband and I will have.  I've been able to break it down the following way...

"Benefit Tiers." 
(This is relevant to me and my choices.)

Tier 1: Casual
-nothing really spontaneous, simple with little or no passion

Tier 2: Getting serious with healthy trust
-passion starts to become present, foreplay gets interesting, and we become more interlinked mentally

Tier 3: There's a RING on it
-Sorry, I won't speak on this one but, my husband will know

Does this make sense?  Good.


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