May 8, 2015

Hair + You Want Me? Say Hi.


Complete outfit from Upscale Boutique.

Some people have been asking me about how I keep my hair looking healthy.  I simply wash my hair every other day or every two days.  When I shampoo, I only shampoo closer to the scalp and the rest of my hair is washed through with conditioner.  I either let my hair dry on its own and then flat iron it or blow dry it after I wash and no flat iron.  I do not continue any use of heat tools until after I wash my hair again.  I drink lots of water throughout my day.  Every now and then I pamper my ends with coconut oil and that is basically all I do as far as hair regiments go. 



MY THOUGHTS: 

You Want Me? Say Hi.


People always presume that when I am out with friends, I am always being approached...when the reality is, 98% of the time I'm like, "Where dey at doe?"

I've gone through this many times over with friends and associates; I WILL NOT APPROACH A MAN.  I do believe I make myself seem approachable, I am not stand-offish, not snobby, or stuck-up.  When I am out, I enjoy my time and it is very evident in my smile and laughter.  I am pleasant, if you say Hi, I will return the gesture.  It does not have to go into a long conversation about dating, relationship, love affairs, whatever.  It can be a simple introduction with basic information and we see where it goes.  Also, meeting people is great for networking.  You can possibly come across someone who can elevate your professional life with their connections but, even still, I will not approach a man.  Nope, won't do it.  Not for me.

If we are in a setting where we share the same mutual friends, then it is not taboo for me to drum up a conversation but, if we came with separate groups and we keep making eye contact and you do not approach me, then no love lost.  If I have to approach you, then YOU sir are cooking dinner for the rest of our lives together!

In my opinion, how you meet a man or woman sets the tone of how the relationship may come to be.  I should not have to make the decision for you to be interested in me or to get to know me.  You are the man, you make the first move.  I am very traditional in that sense.  I need a man to know what he wants and if he wants me, then he will make the effort to know me regardless if we become a couple, just friends, or nothing at all. Again, I. WILL. NOT. APPROACH. YOU.  At most, I will look you way, smile and if you do not act on that, then you lost the opportunity.

Like in my last post (Class + Style) the man approached me and we had a great time together thereafter.  I do not know if age played a factor, for this man is in his very early 40's.  So maybe it would not have been an issue if I disregarded him or maybe he has approached women enough to know what works.  We have been keeping contact since we met but, it is nothing short of a new friendship.  And do not fear being considered a friend, the best relationships are when the two are friends first.  Hey, I could be friends with my future husband right now, who knows how life will work out.  Just do not miss the chance to know me.

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