November 27, 2015

Not Versace + The Man Who Loves Her


This dress was a bargain find a Ross! 
Looks like something in the Versace line huh? 
Nope, it is straight from the dress wrack at the store less than 10 miles from home!
Cheers to that!

Ladies, we must understand that looking our best does not mean costing the most.  Being money conscious is a lot more attractive than being....well....the woman who says "I'm not sure how I'm going to pay my rent because of those shoes I bought last week for the party I went to last night because I knew he was going to be there."...it ain't that serious. There are plenty ways to style and restyle what you already have in your closet.


MY THOUGHTS: 
The Man Who Loves Her


Women will always be...difficult...but what really has me captured is the men who fall for us...Why?...And I am not only asking why about the women who seem almost impossible to be around...we know a few of those and I still cannot wrap my mind in how they find someone. Hey everyone needs to be loved right?...No, I am also asking why? for those eccentric women, the lively, can't sit still, fun loving, attention grabbing, business seeking, powerful women.  Would a man grow tired of her dominant character and how 'popular' she is with the masses?  A woman like this usually does not step aside or down for anyone if it does not benefit her future.  It truly takes a strong man to fully love a strong woman.

Iris Apfel - A fashion icon and business woman; the way her husband looked at her and spoke about her, he was so patient and loving to her strong personality, he accepted her for her and loved every bit of it. He passed in August 2015.  He was 100 years old.

Diane Von Furstenberg - Fashion designer; her husband is so smitten with her.  They met in the 70's and had a courtship for over 20 years before getting married in 2001.  She told a magazine that he waited 26 years for her to agree to marry him...while some men I know cannot even wait a few days before looking elsewhere.

Michelle Obama - First wife; we have seen many pictures and clips of how her husband adorns her with his affections.  They conspicuously compliment one another with modest tones.

Jada Pinkett-Smith - Actress, singer-songwriter, and business woman; her husband is always, always, speaking highly of her, showing PDA, and looking at her like he is seeing an angel for the first time.

Angelina Jolie - Actress and producer; let's not focus on how she met her husband over the fact that how her husband is forever by her side supporting her.

Victoria Beckham - Business woman; being no stranger to good looks himself, the husband of this woman is tight-lipped about their love but, he is never too far from her reach.



Just For Laughs:
Seems legit

November 25, 2015

Enjoying The World + Lovely Proposals

"Humanity takes itself too seriously.  It is  the world's original sin.   
If the caveman had known how to laugh, history would have been different."
- Oscar Wilde (Lord Henry)


Why must we make life so difficult?  You want to know how I know that everything will be just fine?

The Goonies and TLC.

Let me break it down.  These two things I mentioned are generational trademarks and there are plenty more I could have named.  I cannot speak for all of you but, when I think or reminisce of these things, I remember nothing but times when I was having fun, being happy, and enjoying life (aside for the tragedy of Left Eye.)  The worries of the world did not matter.  Even now that I am "adulting", I know cannot solve everyone's problems or expect everyone to think the way I do.  What I can do is accept the cards which were dealt to me either by divine intervention or as a result of my own decisions and actions and go forth using the knowledge I have obtained and utilizing the resources available to me.  So, as long as I remain positive on any outlook, there is no reason for me not to obtain what I want...what WE want.

It is going on 4 years since I left my toxic relationship and it has been THE BEST 4 YEARS EVER!  Granted, the first year I went through the "what the hell do I do now" phase but, as I started to get comfortable with my new life, making new friends and connections, I started to enjoy...everything.  I learned how "limited" I was before and how so much of me is capable of being AMAZING!

And as many of you know, I am taking my sweet time with finding the "lucky man" because I want to not only be sure of him but, of myself too.  I do not want to relationship hop or go back and forth with the same person.  Why do that?  Why waste the thought of being with someone else if you cannot let go of the one you keep reconnecting with?  Or why keep getting into relationships just to be in a new one months later?  Figure out what you want and stick to it.  Besides, it is much easier to explain 1 lover over a long period of time than several lovers over a short period of time to my future husband.


MY THOUGHTS:
Lovely Proposals


Sigh....yet again, another friend has been proposed to.  Her beau took her on a trip to Hawaii for her birthday and popped the question while dining beach side...que in the sappy love songs...I am so happy for her, she is such a sweetheart and deserves to be loved like how her now fiance loves her...guess I'll be making a trip to Z Gallerie.

At work, some of my employees ask me "So when are you getting married?" I always laugh it off and say I have not found anyone that is crazy enough to love me yet...my employees have no idea how much of a mess I am! One day, I'll get there.  I think I want David Tutera to be my wedding planner...and Jesse Powell to sing my wedding song...or Lionel Richie if he's available.

This is how I am supposed to be thinking.
This is how I am REALLY thinking.


Just For Laughs: 
Psychology Humor 

November 22, 2015

Happiness in a Box + Teen Money Banking


It is that time of year again to get a new fresh pair of boots.  Look, you can take me out of the east coast but, you can't take the east coast out of me!  I'll show you how to do this Son!

Timberland X Dopeness



And of course, I am still studying investments....and detoxing...

Water / ACV / Cheyenne Pepper / Cinnamon / Honey / Lemon Juice

Some of the ingredients are optional but, definitely get your shot of ACV!
*I borrowed my Daddy's mug that he had engraved in Europe. Thanks Dad!


MY THOUGHTS: 
Teen Money Banking 


Can you take a wild guess what my kids will be receiving as one of their Christmas gifts?
I think this is an AWESOME idea!  There is nothing wrong with teaching your kids the fundamentals of saving and smart spending.  My daughter can check her account and as she gets older and better with money management, if she is out with her friends and needs a little extra cash, I can just log into the CapitalOne app and transfer money to her instantly!

P.S. - I used to have ING Direct which was a solely online banking option in America (the bank started in The Netherlands.)  Their US Corporate headquarters were based in Wilmington, DE.  I loved them, they had the best interest rates and the customer service was amazing....in 2011, Capital One bought them out and ING became 360.  Although, I was not happy with this acquisition, I was pleased to learn that all my rates and benefits were grandfathered and there is a special customer service department for the old ING Direct holders. Yay!

FOOD!
OMG. I saw this, I had to share it!
Did someone say bacon?!


Also, have you notice the new "RECIPE" tab?  I decided share a few of my favorite recipes.  Try them out and email me with your thoughts and pictures!

November 20, 2015

Morticia + Low Maintenance

 

Top: N.Y.C
Skirt: Amazon.com
Shoes: Anne Michelle

Have you heard?  Black is the new black.
Never stray from wearing all black.  
It is actually a very attractive and seductive color if you wear it right.
Just ask Morticia Adams.


I went to a networking event at The Marque in CityCentre.  I made a few new connections, exchanged business cards and took some pictures.  Unfortunately, I could not stay long since I had another engagement to get to Downtown (which I missed due to traffic, a fashion show I was looking forward to for almost 2 months!  Damn Houston highways!)



MY THOUGHTS:
Low Maintenance


So many men presume that if a woman carries herself a certain way, she must be high maintenance and requires a lot from her spouse.  Not true...at least not in my case.  I only require as much from him as I require from myself.  If I support your decisions, support mine.  If I do nice things for you just because, do nice things for me.  If I surprise you with a weekend getaway, surprise me too.  If I call you just to tell you I love you, when are you planning to call?  If I make attempts to take you out of your rut, make attempts for me...BUT, I do require him to be very patient with me...for good reason.  I know at times I can be very stubborn.  I know at times I can be very callous and petty and childish and un-affectionate...well damn, maybe I don't deserved a husband...just bare with me and love me through all this.  I can assure you that I will not give you a valid reason not to have me. 


*P.S. - If I give you my attention and show you I am intrigued by you but, you still sense that I am keeping my guard up or trying to water down my feelings towards you, just remain patient and stick with me and definitely, DEFINITELY read between the lines.  Sometimes it can be very tricky to figure out if I really like you or if I just want you as a friend and only that.  Also, (and I may not mention it to you until you ask) if I notice something about you that I do not like or know I cannot live with, then I begin to slowly digress.  Text messages go unanswered, phone calls go unreturned, communication is very generic, etc.  I am very personable and I like to enjoy my time with people but, some men take my friendliness and my behavior towards them the wrong way and it becomes awkward...no sweetheart, you can't have my heart...see message below...




Just For Laughs: 
Who had one of these? 


That flash in your eyes was not joke huh?!

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November 19, 2015

Piada + Stocks and Investing + VOTE


I attend a blogger brunch this week at Piada Italian Street Food.  The food was amazing!  I ordered the lobster bisque and the Italian Trio.  The ingredients were fresh and well prepared.  The whole idea of seeing your food being made in front of you is not a new concept but, it seems to be becoming very popular these days.  Hey, I have no complaints as long as the food is good, you won't hear a peep out of me!  You may see a little happy dance or some humming as I eat but, that's about it.  


I was dressed for work and nothing else...no excitement here, reading glasses and all...but, I did meet some wonderful ladies who have great thoughts and ideas which they express on their own blogs:



MY THOUGHTS: 
Stocks and Investing


I wish I would have started doing this in my 20's but hey, at least I am taking interest now and I am still young enough to make a decent amount from the stock market if I do the research.  So as I understand it, there is no simple formula to the stock market, it is a emotional as a women on her...never mind...you get the drift...what I need to focus on is companies with a product or idea that could possible revolutionize our way of life...or at least make it more enjoyable.  I wish I had part of the original Google and eBay stocks!...baby steps.  I am also re-configuring my monthly expenses..how I spend so much in one month is beyond me!

Here are some notes I took: 
These seem very simple and obvious but, you would be surprised how many people do not think to do this...

1. Make a spread sheet of your monthly expenses - House, Car, Insurance, Childcare, Credit Cards etc., anything that is a definite

2. Calculate your take home amount (after taxes) and place it against your monthly expenses

3. Eliminate any memberships - the only thing memberships do is lock you in a payment contract with the 'benefit' of discount services.  With all the coupons, LivingSocial, and Groupon deals, you can always get a good price for whatever you are needing.

4. Keep at least 2 credit cards - having revolving accounts can help your credit score

5. Keep your credit card balances UNDER half of your credit limit - high balances take a major hit to your credit score

6. Always know how much is in your bank - track what is coming in and what is going out.  I look at all of my accounts at least once a day.

7. DO NOT impulse shop - I am guilty of this. There is no need to have another pair of pumps in a different color or a new dress that will only sit in your closet for the next 6 months.  If you are not going to use it right away, there is no need to go into your pockets.

*By the way: Barnes & Noble is my sanctuary.


MY THOUGHTS CONTINUED...
VOTE



So I recently found out that I have been nominated by Houston Fashion Bloggers as having one of the best lifestyle blogs!  How amazing is that!  Houston has an array of talented bloggers, I am so humbled to be nominated among them!

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November 15, 2015

I Am Woman + Does Society Still Think This Way?


I immediately laughed when the man said, "Where is your husband?"
Because it was funny and because of the message or meaning behind it....

Yes, the husband is the provider of the home BUT, this does not mean a woman cannot provide as well.  I firmly believe that a wife should stand by her husband and support him...as long as his choices do not hinder or destroy the family...and I still believe in some traditions in a marriage, a husband is to lead the wife and introduce her to the world as such BUT, a marriage is not one sided.  A wife is to also protect and support her husband and introduce him to the world as the man in her life who she looks to for love and companionship. 

Yet, in the essence of marriage, a wife should not lose herself.  There are parts of her life before the husband that she can still hold on to such as, work and friends.  Although, I am very busy with work, I do make time to catch up with my friends but, when I am married, I will not completely bid adieu to these parts of my life, I will just simply have to reorganize my time and not intentionally do anything that would hurt my marriage or have my husband think wayward of me.


Women wear pants too.


I do believe that in certain senses society still encourages women to acclimate to traditional 'house-wife' roles....cleaning, cooking, raising children, serving the husband, being classy, being accommodating to guests, etc.....I agree with ALL of these things.....but in complementary context.  There are two people in a marriage.  As much as I am expected do, I expect the same from my husband.  We are partners, if I am giving my all, he will need to as well.  If he gives me 50, that is only half of him, I want all of him.

November 9, 2015

WildBloom + In Training


Not sure if I mentioned this already but, I started a new meal plan which a friend of mine created and even though I hate not being able to eat all that I want, I am noticing some results.  This very dress has been sitting in my closet for 3 months and I finally was "fit" enough to wear it.  The back of this dress has a little peep hole cut out around the small of the back that is very appealing but sorry, no pictures of my backside for you creepers.

The little pouch that looked like I could be pregnant is slowly starting to diminish...FINALLY!...because we all know, I AM NOT HAVING ANYMORE BABIES!...My weight is still higher than what I like BUT, the tone of my body is forming to my liking.


What did I do in this dress?
Well, I skipped off to a new boutique in Rice Village and had a shopping adventure. 


The picture on the mug was drawn by a local artist who was showcasing her work at WildBloom Boutique and she is VERY talented!  I purchased this mug and the same sketch on canvas.  Now I just need a home office and fully launch my Style Consulting Business, then I'd be set!


The artist, RongRong DeVoe, (pictured below) does style editorials for big fashion names and she decided to branch out on her own and start a new business venture...oh, how I love it when women defy the odds and succeed in this man's world!



MY THOUGHTS: 
In Training


I want to mention that being someone's wife is not my sole purpose in life, it is just a part of my life that gains the most interest among friends and family so I makes sense to discuss those topics here. 

I know that I do not want to be a wife that my husband cannot be proud of.  I avoid certain situations, invites, topics, and connections with some people because I know it may play a part of how my future husband could perceive me.  I still enjoy my time and make new friends, I am just very careful of how close I get with particular people...No one will approach my groom and tell him scandalized stories of me but, of course there will always be bitter people who have nothing but foul things to say, I pray for these souls... 

And not all connections are perfect, of course I will have disagreements with my spouse but, I still want to have fun with him.  I do not want to just love him but, also "like" him; like to be around him, like to have meaningless conversations with him, like to see him, like to date him, like to stare at him and make faces at him, like to throw popcorn at him from behind the couch... and like to be good to him...because he is good to me and we genuinely admire each other.

Also, I am never ashamed to admit that I was raised spoiled, so I do expect my husband to understand that saying "No" to me does not process well and I can become very hard to deal with when I hear "No" BUT, in all fairness, I will not to request anything impossible.

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November 1, 2015

Rain Rain + Why You Can't Be My Husband


It has been raining on and off here in Houston,
so I have not gotten a chance to get any good style snapshots,
hopefully this coming week we will get some sun.
Until then, you get my signature selfies!



MY THOUGHTS: 

Why You Can't Be My Husband


I'm not sure exactly what I want but, I know what I do not want...
Here is a list: 

  • You do not invite me to places outside your home - No explanation necessary.
  • You do not give me my space - We are individuals, I will already have things in place that I must tend to without you. Don't be disgruntled about it.
  • You are controlling - We both have thoughts and opinions, be open to mine as I am open to yours....listen.
  • My friends MUST be your friends - You will meet all my friends in due time but, we do not always have to all hang together.
  • You text me one word messages - "Wyd" "Hey" << No, I need you to put thought in what you message me with full sentences and punctuation, unless our connection has graduated to a level of comfort where I understand the use of simple texts.
  • You are needy - I will cater to the one I am involved with but, I will not be at his every beckoned call. If you knew how to take care of yourself before me, then the benefit of me is to assist, not to assume all your needs.
  • You talk about yourself in every conversation we have - It is one thing to be confident but, it is another thing to boast about yourself in attempts to convince me to think of you more seriously. It is best to be humble and allow me to learn you authentically.
  • You think, act, and dress like a child - I should not have to explain this one.
  • You have 'situationshps' with other women - Until you clear yourself of this and the women understand you are only focusing on a future with me, then we can only just remain friends.
  • Your truth is not your real truth - You can tell me anything, I have no reason not to believe you until you give me a reason, just do not sugar coat anything for me about who you are.
  • You do not know how to be around children - If my kids don't like you, neither do I.
  • You are not personable - I am social, if we are out, you cannot be on the wall.
  • You do not know how to handle my stubbornness - If you run or rebel, you lose.
  • You do not plan for ANYTHING - I am a planner, especially when it comes to events, surprises, trips, night outs, etc. I do not want to have to do this all the time.
  • You are not money conscious - I work hard to maintain financial stability, you will not hinder that for me or expect me to finance BOTH our lives.
  • You cannot cook - I cook, you should to...p.s.- have you checked out my food page on IG? See here.  
  • You do not understand my wayward humor - I say things that may be inappropriate just for laughs, if you take offense, then you will never understand me.
  • You do not make me laugh - You need to be fun to be around.
  • You are not interested in some of the things I like - I read, I drink wine, I listen to jazz and soul music, I travel outside the country, you do not have to like the same things but, at least take interest in it for my sake. We are not going to talk about only the things you like....if you have never or do not want to travel abroad, I'm not sure if we can even be friends.
  • You do not have strong faiths or you do not pray - I attend church, I need you to at least lead most of your life in HIS direction.
  • You were not my friend first - The foundation starts here, don't try to skip over this.
Hey, I have my standards, I refuse to relationship hop or just accept any kind of man in my life.

P.S. - My business number is NOT a dating hotline. I will not respond to such calls.