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Sometimes I get questioned or scrutinized about not dating...or at least not having a "friend" nearby.


I don't even know what dating is anymore and everyone has a different definition.  And from what I've been seeing, "dating" is just another term for casually sleeping with someone or more than one someones. Granted, there are some...few...people who consider dating a serious process in the next step towards marriage, So not all of us are lost. 

Whatever the definition is, I don't want to be a loose woman.  As big as the world is, the more people you know, the smaller it gets, and during times when I am being an extrovert, I do meet a lot of people and those people are likely to know more people thus, leading to everyone being connected.  Hence, I like to keep myself exclusive. 

I joke with some of my close friends saying, "My hoeing days are over." referring to pre-children years where my promiscuity was an unbalanced scale of rumors and reality, high school boys are the worst and the catty girls weren't any better 😒.  Also referring to the post EX year, where I did toy with a few young men, I'm not sorry about it either and those few may think they got the best of me but, Oh honey, you have no idea of all that you weren't privileged to.  And if sex is the only thing you have over me, then sweetheart, Good for you! Because being with me must have made you feel very accomplished 😉.  Today, I laugh at it all and chalk it up to, Hey, I enjoyed my time!


The problem with having a "friend" nearby is...People tend to get attached and feel you are obligated to always be available to them.

How often is he going to want to see me?
Is he going to throw a fit when I don't have time for him or don't want to see him?

And if sex is the only thing that's keeping me and someone connected, then he can see his way to another woman.

🠝🠝 I don't have the patience for any of that shit. So I avoid it.  🠝🠝

The problem with today's dating scene is...People tend to get attached and feel you are obligated to always be available to them, especially when there is no mention of a stable relationship.

How often is he going to want to see me?
Is he going to throw a fit or distance himself from me when I don't have time for him?

If sex is the only goal, then he can see his way to another woman.

🠝🠝 I don't have the patience for any of that shitSo I avoid it.  🠝🠝

 I may be becoming the type of woman who will do better in a long distance relationship...But, let's not get excited with this thought, I'm still very guarded and have trust issues.  Yet, I do feel the days of true courtship is behind us. 

I just don't want to welcome anything meaningless in my life.

I'm blessed.  I'm happy.  I'm enjoying the universe. I surly don't want a man to come into my space and sugarcoat 'just sex' by hiding it behind dating or empty friendships.

I going to continue to be exclusive, sharing less of my personal goods and more of my mental dimensions.  Like it or leave it.


Dress - Elan USA



EMAIL: xoxo.rayal@gmail.com


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