I've been reading about the Times Up movement and all the statements and articles that have been publicized. I do agree that men should know their limits with women, I also believe they should not abuse their authority to obtain anything they want from women.
There are still so many women who play on the fantasies with men. The Times Up Movement is not for woman who just had a bad date or no longer interested in the a man she once allowed to knock her off in the men's bathroom at a nightclub.
No, the Movement is for those who did not have a voice when they were being violated by men of a certain stature.
Yet, I do want to mention that society plays a part in today's sexual influence; advertising food, cars, and events with half naked women. Everything we see is highly sexualized...I mean, have you seen some of these middle-schoolers today?! Does this excuse a man to act as he wants? Fck no. But women need to know where to draw the line as well.
Yes, I expect to get some backlash about this because their are flaws on both sides of the spectrum.
I've always preached that women need to hold themselves to a high degree of intelligence, professionalism, and discipline. We CAN get what we want without laying down. But if you want to be a hoe, go ahead and let you freak flag fly, sweetheart. Just remember, there are consequences to your behavior.
If you decided to use your body to get ahead, how do you expect men to view you? If you continue to allow a man to mistreat you or demand certain activities from you, why would he think that you feel wronged? Even if the actions are morally or ethically wrong, if it is allowed to continue, what value do you have for yourself? As I read some of the stories, I wondered about their self-esteem, about their lifestyle choices, and the people around them who turned an eye.
This is not to bash women, I understand a woman being scared, feeling like no one will believe her, thinking nothing will change, or hoping that agreeing to certain advances will grant her other opportunities. I do believe that some of these women who came forward did not have a voice at the time. Sometimes when a woman is wronged, her basic knowledge of relationships or interactions with men is compromised; she shuts down and will not discuss anything until she feels it necessary.
But understand this...
WE WOMEN ARE A LOT MORE POWERFUL THAN SOME WANT US TO BELIEVE.
And when we band together....You betta pray your name isn't on the list.
*The recent stories about a medical professional abusing young gymnasts is BEYOND disgusting. My opinions on men like that are extremely vexed. This type of abuse of power is demeaning to our human understanding of medical professionals and their responsibility to keep us healthy.
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